Love Again | If Only I’d Known | Respect Your Husband
…and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:33
Rod carefully unwrapped his birthday gift from his wife, anticipating a surprise. When the paper fell away, he was surprised all right. And confused. Inside the bright pink box was an entire wardrobe for a Barbie doll. He looked up, puzzled. Anna was watching him with a delighted smile on her face. “Do you like it?” she asked. “I always longed to have Barbie’s complete wardrobe, and now you have it! It was the best gift I could think of to give you. Now you know how much I love you!”
While most wives would never give their husbands a Barbie wardrobe, they often give them equally useless gifts when trying to express their affection. Just because Anna may have wanted such a gift does not mean her husband wants it. When God gave instructions to husbands and wives, He was specific about what each should give the other. While most wives need affirmations of love from their husbands, husbands crave respect. A husband needs his wife to affirm his role as leader of the family. He needs to hear often that he is a good provider, protector, and that his wife does not compare him unfavorably with other men. Respect feels like love to him. But often a wife tries to give her husband what she needs herself and then wonders why he isn’t getting the message. God knows what He’s talking about. Our marriages are strengthened when we do it His way.
Final Thought: Wives, are you communicating respect and appreciation to your husband for the things he does right?
Prayer: Father, you’re convicting me about how much I take my spouse for granted. I don’t say affirming things as often as I could. Remind me to communicate my appreciation and respect every time I think it. In Jesus’ name, Amen.